Retard spaz.

I've been wanting to post something like this for a while, but have struggled with wording it in a way that doesn't sound either whingey or aggressive. Please note that aggression or moaning is most definitely not the intention of this post, it is simply to make people think before they speak. I would also like to point out that this isn't directed at anybody in particular, it is much more a generational thing. So here goes...

The other week I was out shopping when I overheard a conversation between a young woman and her male friend. One of them said something silly, to which the other retorted "you retard!", followed by laughter on both parts. Since then I have repeatedly noticed people, jokingly in most cases, referring to others as a "spaz" or a " retard". Of course to a large number of people this wouldn't seem offensive at all (even in this day and age!). It is said as a form of mild teasing, without much thought. I try not to be offended. But I am. I am offended because it is used as a form of teasing. It's a negative word which is derogatory towards people such as my daughter. In my opinion, calling somebody a spaz is on a par with calling somebody a n*gger (another word I absolutely detest.). These words are old and outdated and have no place in modern day society. My daughter has spasticity in her muscles,  and will most likely have an intellectual disability (formally referred to as mental retardation). This is who she is, these medical terms are part of her life story. It doesn't make her less of a person. Yes she will have struggles, but she still has all the parts of the human body that makes us human. She is the same as the rest of us. So why should these words that define her condition be used as an insult? That is as absurd as me using "you abled bodied person" or "you intellectually average guy" as an insult. Silly really, isn't it? Please guys, just think about what you're saying before it comes out. I know people don't say it spitefully, but it doesn't make it any nicer or easier for those with disabilities, or those caring for people with disabilities.

Anna had her grommets fitted and her sedated hearing test on the 19th September. As usual, she bounced straight back and was her usual happy self almost right away! We don't have the results yet, but when we do I will post again. This morning we've been to see a genetic councillor to start ruling out any genetic conditions. Anna (and I!) are both really enjoying special needs baby group, which we started a few weeks ago. Anna seems to be coming on, her head control is improving, albeit slightly but any progress is worth recognising! She is also trying to grab at things more and more. And she still loves and dotes on her big brother!